Love always produces art—that is, love always produces artifice. A lover always behaves in unnatural ways. This applies not only to individual lovers but also to whole cultures. Courtship and marriage have always been governed by a code of behavior that dictates how lovers are to approach one another. Fifty years ago, a young man would talk with a young woman on a porch swing; today, she invites him out for a beer or a movie. The conventions have changed, but there still are conventions. Paradoxically,